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Your Glory // All Sons & Daughters

We were at the second to last light before turning into LA Fitness. It was a Wednesday. We had just finished some coaching calls with clients, so I didn’t see the message come in when it did.

A friend had so thoughtfully texted me to let me know she was pregnant. I seriously appreciate those texts and emails, but they also make me feel so fragile. Like everyone knows we’ve been waiting all these years while they have their first, second, third child.

My soul has ached for the last five years. Intermittently, of course, because I am so grateful for our current, baby-less life. Jesse takes care of me so well. We have a business we love. And we adventure together and laugh a lot and love spending time with the incredible people in our life. And, Jesus! Well, he’s been so good to me all along the way, too, whether I get what I want or not. He’s changed me for the better. Nevertheless, when I read emails and texts and see social media posts about someone else having a baby, my soul always aches, even if just a little bit.

But, let’s be honest. This time was more than just a little bit. Hot tears plummeted down my cheeks, just before we pulled up to the light. I cried to Jesse about how I just feel so stupid sometimes, being the girl in the room people tread lightly for. I’m so tired of being that girl. He listened to my cry-rant, the way he always does.

And then, when I was finished, he said, “I think it’s going to happen soon.” I didn’t believe him. I thought he was just trying to make me feel better in the moment. But, he said he really, truly believed it’s going to happen soon.

I shake my head in disbelief. Silently, I beg God. “I know others have it harder, with other difficulties, but Lord if you could just please spread out this pain. Divvy it up. Take the weight off. Carry this for me. I just don’t know how much longer I can take this.”

As the same old words bounced around in my brain. As the same old prayers left my heart, the red light was about to turn green.

But just before it did…

My phone, sitting in my driver’s side cupholder, well, it rang.

Nightlight Christian Adoptions flashed on the screen.

The same sense of excitement and anxiety rushed through us, like it had two other times before. You see, you think this is the call, but after a couple of false alarms earlier in the year…we just couldn’t be sure. Plus, the last few months had really been a doozy and I had attempted some defensive, protective barriers to shield this vulnerable heart of mine.

In April, we learned that the agency was expecting 22 new files and that we were 4th in line to receive a referral for the age we specified. In May, we learned we were at the top of that list and that they were still waiting on those files. TOP OF THE LIST!! In May! Months rolled on. Families were matched.

Jesse had a feeling it was going to be August. We prayed boldly and specifically that it would be August.

It wasn’t August.

September…Still waiting on the remaining 9 files…
October…
November…
Those months were rough.

Disappointments. Letdowns. Setbacks with our paperwork. Redoing appointments, payments, things we’d already done multiple times. I laid off the prayers. I didn’t even know what to say anymore.

Just before our 8th wedding anniversary in November, the Lord rejuvenated my faith (probably for the 10,000th time in the last 5 years) enough for me to boldly approach him again with a very specific prayer…

Straight from one of my Instagram posts, from November 17th…

“I pray he moves mountains right now in China. We know there are supposed to be files coming (before the end of the year) from one of our agency’s partner orphanages in China. We don’t know if our girl is in this group. (We boldly pray she is!) We don’t know when those files will make it to our agency. (We boldly pray it’s before Christmas!)

I do know God sees me and hears me and has plans that’ll blow us away. And even if, once again, our prayers go unanswered, we can surrender our fears at the foot of the cross and rest assured that even though this journey is sometimes painful, there is purpose in his plan. ‘Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.’ Hebrews 4:16”

So, there we were, on Wednesday, December 6th, at that stoplight, excitedly, anxiously, staring at each other, staring at my phone, with wide eyes and hopeful hearts.

I answered.

The first 15 seconds, exactly the same as the two false alarm calls. “I know you and Jesse want to make these decisions together. Do you think he’s available and we can add him to this call?”

“Oh, he’s right here. We’re in the car, on our way to the gym.”

“Okay, great. Would you mind putting me on speaker so he can hear, too?”

We’re one step ahead. We’re ready. We’ve been freaking ready.

“Yep! You’re already on speaker.”

Jesse says hi.

The light turns green.

She starts telling us about a little girl. The only girl in the files they finally received from a specific partner orphanage in China, from a city that oddly looks like and reminds me of San Diego.

As we pull into a parking lot near that stoplight, she goes on to say she does have some special medical needs that we didn’t check off on our list but she wanted to call and tell us about her anyway because she is so young. She tells us she’s 18 months. Jesse and I look at each other, knowing this is rare. Few and far between. Part of the reason we’re almost exactly 12 months into the estimated 4-10 month wait.

She says, “Her birthday is…” My heart stops. I think for a quick second we might share a birthday, but what she says next is even better. Something so precious I could have never dreamed it up myself. (We will be able to share after our adoption is final.)

Later, after doing the math, we realize she was actually about 16 months the day we got the call. Super young. Super uncommon.

Turns out her special need is also rare. Something we’d never heard of but have researched like crazy since we got the call.

We sat in that parking lot and soaked up every last word. Her file had just come in from China and needed to be reformatted before they could send us her medical records, any and all information they had about her and any photos and videos. And so, we learned of this little love muffin at 11am on December 6th but didn’t actually receive her file until the morning of December 7th.

The 2.5 weeks that followed were agonizing as we waited on China to answer our questions. As we waited for updated information. As we emailed and waited on doctors to review her medical reports. As we prayed. As we surrendered our plans, our thoughts about what this all might look like.

On December 19th, we received China’s answers to some of our questions. I read the email for the first time out loud to Jesse and sobbed my eyes out. Relief of good news.

On December 20th, we received another email with updates. This time, as we scrolled down through the message to see the new photos, a little head of dark hair and straight bangs stared us in the face. Jesse says he knew then because of this. I think I knew when I learned her birthday on that December 6th phone call.

Christmas has always been a little rough around the edges for me. I love what it really stands for but find myself so adverse to so much of it because of past hurts and disappointments in my life. But now, that will forever be changed.

For 5 years, we sought the Lord. His timing, his grace, his hope, his strength, his peace, his mercy, his faithfulness. And heartache after heartache, he alone restored us. Because of that, because of him, I don’t believe it’s a coincidence that we confessed our yeses to each other and emailed our agency on Christmas Eve morning, joyfully, excitedly, graciously accepting the referral of our daughter.

God redeemed Christmas for me. Forever. From here on out, I’ll always know and remember that long December that ended Christmas Eve morning with gratitude I can’t begin to explain.

We finally, finally know who our darling girl is.

Created and loved by our incredible God, who so unbelievably has entrusted her to Jesse and me. She is beautiful. She is rare. We’re told she is active, has a ready smile and loves being amused. We’re also told she’s taken outside to “bask in the sun” and taught to learn about the flowers and grass. Doesn’t that sound just like our sunshine girl?! Doesn’t she fit just perfectly into our lives and our hearts?! She settles right in to the name we’ve had for her before we even knew her…

Vera.

(Pronounced VAIR-uh.)
Vera has been at the top of our list for years now. When we saw her sweet face, each of us decided that yes, she is Vera.
In Russian, it means faith. Our entire journey to her has been just that. Faith that God would deliver on a conviction he stirred in our hearts.
In Albanian, it means summer. Which is the season she was born. All three of us have summer birthdays.

Vera Lynn.

Lynn is my mom’s middle name.
I was named after my grandmother, Rebecca.
Call me a sucker for sentiment, but we’re keeping the tradition alive.
In Gaelic and Old English origin, it means lake, waterfall or pool. Perfect for water lovers and waterfall chasers like Jesse and me.

In all the waiting. In all the uncertainty. In all the disappointments. In all the unknowns. In all the tears. We prayed over and over and over again that God would be watching over our daughter, whoever she was, wherever she was. We prayed over and over and over again that she’d be experiencing love and care and even a little happiness and sunshine, if possible.

I can not look at her face without experiencing God’s faithfulness.

I can not even begin to share our journey to Vera, without praising the Lord.

Coming home, probably in April, our daughter…Vera Lynn Morquecho…

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27 comments

  1. Shannon

    So so happy for you both! Can’t wait for you to welcome Vera into your home!

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  2. Bethanne Arthur

    So many happy tears for you three!!!!!!! So happy for you and I’m praying for sweet Vera to be in your arms in April or even sooner!

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  3. Callie Lindsey

    Vera!!! Oh my goodness! And that smile! She is SO BEAUTIFUL!
    This is the best post to ever grace the internet.

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  4. Megan Martin

    Oh my soul! Praise God for sweet baby Vera and praise God for your beautiful heart. So so happy for you!! 💗

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  5. Kelly

    What a cutie!! She looks like a bundle of sunshine with that exuberant smile! So happy for you both!
    Kelly

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  6. Marie Monforte

    Sqquuueeeeee!!! I am so beyond happy for you guys! What a lucky little girl to end up with parents as loving and faithful as you! Congratulations!

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  7. Melisas McClure

    She is the cutest ever! And is so lucky to have you both as parents! Congrats Morquecho family!!

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  8. Kelly Lemon

    OH MY GOSH! Praise be the Lord!!

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  9. Allie

    Oh how I love Vera Lynn so much already! We are all so excited to meet you sweet baby girl! Luke and I are so happy for you and your family!!

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  10. Lexi

    CONGRATULATIONS!!!! This is one of the most beautiful things I’ve ever read, Becky and Jesse, thank you for sharing your journey so openly. We can’t wait to welcome Vera Lynn Morquecho home, praise the Lord! Love you guys! 💕

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  11. Joni

    oh. my heart. SO happy for you two! I love seeing your faces lit so brightly with happiness! CONGRATS!!!!!!

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  12. Heidi

    BEST POST EVER !!!!! Sooooo wonderful!!!! What a story God has weaved for you, amazing all the details, and you have been so patient, God is good!! So much love for you guys !!! 💗💗💗💗 and LOVE the meaning in her name !!!

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  13. Kelly Zugay

    This is AMAZING!!! Congratulations! What a sweet, happy family! It’s a joy to read your story and to see the Lord’s faithfulness through it all. ❤️

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  14. Maranda

    God is so faithful, I’m so excited for you guys and for her! What a gorgeous little girl. My daughter just looked at the picture and said how could anybody not want her she’s so adorable – she’s just perfect sometime

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  15. Weatherly

    So so thrilled, excited and relieved for you guys!!! Vera Lynn is such an answer to God’s faithfulness and timing! Celebrating (as in heart bursting) for you and Jesse!!!! Can’t wait to see her journey home soon!

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  16. Kim

    Teeeeaaars!!! 😍 😍 😍
    What an amazing story of God’s redemption and faithfulness! Thank you for remixing us all to keep trusting God! Can’t wait to see more of Vera in the months to come! ❤️

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  17. Kayla Illies

    Oh my gosh guys I am SO SO SO SO SO SO SO happy for you!!!!!!! I’m sending all three of you a virtual hug! I cannot wait for you guys to have her in your arms!!!!!! Vera is going to be SO loved and so spoiled by you both!!!! Congrats!!!!!!

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  18. Tiffany

    So beautiful Becky, just cried my eyes out with such a precious and sweet reminder on Gods faithfulness and kindness. So so sooo excited for you guys and can’t wait!! Will continue to keep y’all in my prayers

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  19. Deonna

    What a Beautiful Blessing!!! Congratulations!!

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  20. Shay

    Praise the Lord! And of course we love the name Vera!!

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  21. Wendy

    Happy tears over here for all 3 of you and praising God with you! Thank you so much for sharing your heart. The road of infertility is a long & painful one (one I know well myself) but God has shown Himself faithful as He always is. And, Vera is absolutely DARLING! SOOOO happy for you!!

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  22. Kaiya

    This is the most beautiful thing to read. The joy I feel for you is so abundant!!!!! Praise God and SO much love to you and Jesse!!!

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  23. Chris Dowd

    This is so amazing. I am truly happy for you and her. ❤️

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  24. Jordan Jones

    Oh my goodness, I am crying tears of joy for you right now reading this! God is SO good and SO faithful and I’m just overjoyed for you, Jesse, and Vera! Congratulations!! I also just have to say what an amazing testament you both are to believing in the Lord’s will for your lives. You are SUCH an inspiration and I cannot wait to keep following this journey of yours!

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  25. Ann

    Congratulations Jesse and Becky! I am so excited for you and so glad you feel showered with God’s love. 🙂

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  26. Tim

    Congratulations! What a blessing. God is good!

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